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The solitude happens when our relations circle is minor or less satisfactory than we want. The solitude is a discrepancy between the relations that is had and those that are wished. The fact of feeling alone can provoke the psychopathological states as suicide or depression. It is a much more common phenomenon in the developed world, and it attacks at any age and to persons of any socio-economic level. Bradburn found that 23 % of the Americans has felt alone in the last weeks, and one of every nine has been seriously alone the previous week.
CAUSES
The concrete causes of the solitude are:
- Completion of a few such intimate emotional relations like the divorce, 'widowhood or sentimental rupture.
- Physical separation of the family or friends.
- Change of the social state, like retirement, unemployment...
- I change in the essential aspects of the relation like when a conflict arises, the communication or the confidence breaks.
- Persons of the third age who end up by remaining literally alone.
The individual when he feels alone, lives through it like an unpleasant experience to which it tries to give explanation including this type of questions:
- It tries to understand porqué has come to this situation. This analysis believe a discrepancy between what it has been and what he had wished, and this discrepancy is the solitude.
- They look for the causes that support feeling alone.
- They look for the necessary changes.
The explanation that of to these conducts will determine the reaction of individual to the solitude: Internal causes: "I feel alone because I am ugly, and as it I have no friends". It is a stable cause, therefore it does not give place to the hope but only to the fault. External causes: "I feel alone because the others push me back, and live in an ambience where it is not easy to have relations". This would be the case of an immigrant. If the cause is external, the individual is revealed against the ambience that causes him the suffering, of that time the solitude does not believe fault but rebelliousness. Also, the solitude is a vicious circle since the one that is alone, as the depressed one, feels unable to go out of this situation, therefore it does not try it, which makes him feel even more alone. It is necessary to add also the external ring of the social thing to this circle: the person who feels alone tries to be consoled by us, but only until we get tired, then we avoid him because the alone person depressed and with a complex does not turn out to be an agreeable company. To the solitude that the person suffers we add that we are attributing him. For all this, it is necessary to remember that nobody suffers because he wants, but because he has not the necessary hardware it to stop doing. It is necessary to help the person who feels alone to which it attributes his state to causes that she could control, and who if she strains can improve, this way his hope will increase.
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