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An important function of the parents is to speak to his children about the love, the intimacy and the sex. The parents can help very much if they create a positive ambience in which it is possible to speak with his children about these topics. Nevertheless, many parents avoid or postpone this discussion.
Every year many adolescents remain pregnant women in our country and some other adolescents infect an illness transmitted sexually. This takes us to the conclusion that the children and adolescents need information and direction of his parents to help them to take decisions healthy and adapted with regard to his sexual behavior, since they can be confused and stimulated in excess for what they see and listen.
To speak about the sex can be very uncomfortable both for the parents and for the children. The parents must answer to the needs and at the level of curiosity of every child in particular, offering not even any more less information than the child asks and has the aptitude to learn. As they grow, the children often will ask about more details about the sex. They have their own words for the parts of the body, it is important to make use of the words that they know and with which they feel more comfortable, so that it becomes easier to speak to them.
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A 5-year-old child can be content with the simple answer of which the babies come from a seed that grows in a special place inside the mother. The dad helps when this seed gets together with the seed of the mom and does that the baby begins to grow.
A 8-year-old child can want to know how the seed of the dad comes up to the seed of the mom. The parents can then speak about as the seed of the dad (or sperm) that comes from his penis gets together with the seed of the mom (or egg) in his womb. Then the baby grows in the safety of the womb of the mom for nine months until the sufficiently strong thing is to be born.
A 11-year-old child can want to know moreover and the parents can help speaking to him about how a man and a woman fall in love and then they can decide to have sexual relations.
EXTERNAL HELP
It can be helpful asking for advice pediatricians, doctors of family or any other professional of the health. The books that use illustrations or diagrams can help in the communication and the understanding. To speak with his children can help them to take the best decisions so that they do not feel pressed to do anything before they are prepared for it. If there are helped the children to whom they understand that these are decisions that need ripeness and responsibility, there increases the probability of which they choose better. The adolescents can need help to handle the intensity of his sexual emotions, with regard to its own sexual identity, and his sexual behavior in a relation.
The worries about the masturbation, the menstruation, the contraceptive measurements, the pregnancy and the illnesses transmitted sexually are common.
SOME ADVICES
Stimulate his son to be spoken and to rise questions.
Support a calmed and free criticism ambience for his discussions.
Use words that are understood and do that the child feels comfortable.
Try to determine which it is the level of knowledge and understanding of the child.
Support his humor sense and do not have fear of speaking about its own discomfort.
Establish the relation between the sex and the love, the intimacy, taking charge of others and the proper respect and for his couple.
Share openly his values and his worries with his child.
Discuss the importance of the responsibility on having chosen and to take decisions.
Help his son to considerara them to develop an open, sincere and continuous communication about the responsibility, the sex and the alternatives, the parents can help his children to learn about the sex of a positive and healthy way.
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