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In the last years more and more cases of violent behavior are observed on the part of the children towards the parents, going so far as to raise the existence of a type of child called "dictator" whose conduct is characterized by the continuous imposition of his will, employment of the emotional and enclosed blackmail of the violence.
This behavior begins to be detected from six or seven years, although one can delay even the 10. It is appreciated especially in unstable nuclei or with relation parents - sons not adapted. It usually talks each other of the only children and with few brothers, or who for age difference have remained alone at home.
The same is not a spoiled child that a child "tyrant". Every child or girl tends to be self-centered and capricious, but the parents can put limits on his requirements. The child turns into dictator when it obtains answer to all his requests, with what he acquires a manipulative, distant attitude and of scorn. It is a type of education that does not put limits on the egoism of the child, forgetting so important values in the education like the sacrifice or the resignation, with what something essential is obtained in the psychological life of the individual as it is the tolerance to the frustration.
Another important factor is the educational distance of the parents, the solitude is already for work etc … and the absence of communication they do that the child rests on the band or models that it sees in television, which normally they spoil the authority concept, and advocate a rebellious attitude and "without limits". Finally, too much importance devotes itself to the consumerism, as well as obtaining a high purchasing power, the use of an image of success before the others. This tyrant can end in an attitude.
A behavior of this nature spends invoice especially to the proper child, since it generates a dangerous dynamics in his maturation as it presents itself. In addition to for the absence of authority, because the egoism and the absence of self-control provoke often the clash with the environment.
Before this situation we must not flee of the problem, must prevent the child from perceiving weakness in the steadfastness of the parents. We have to try an approach without allowing to subjugate, putting limits on the requirements of the minor without looking for violent clash. The figure of a mediator, relative or friend, it can facilitate the solution, making use of his proximity to the child, can re-restore in him the authority concept and to bring it over affectively to his parents. Finally, to promote in him love that serve like route of leakage and relief as the sport, or that make it more opened to the world can be very positive.
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