It is not necessary to confuse these situations with the typical ups and downs that take place in the relations between the pupils, especially along the stage of the adolescence and pre-adolescence. The conflicts and the bad relations between equal, the problems of behavior or of indiscipline are disturbing phenomena but there are no real problems of violence, although they can degenerate into them, if they are not solved of a suitable form.

Let's put the example of a case: A boy or a girl gets with another partner or partner insulting him, putting nicknames to him, making fun of him or she, amenazándolo/a, throwing his things to him, beating him or saying to others that they should not join with him or with her. Here we would be before a case of bullying.

The responsibility relapses on any person who has suspicion or knowledge of what happens. All the members of an educational community (pupils, parents / mothers, professorship...) have an important responsibility at the time of helping who victims are and to speak with those who have these violent behaviors.

Sometimes, the person who is being intimidated somehow by his partners, asks his brothers / experts or friends neither to say, nor to do anything. But not to do anything means generally that these boys or girls who abuse his partners keep on doing it. We must not forget that any intimidation victims have tried to commit suicide before having to keep on tolerating such a pursuit and punishment.

If someone in his family is a victim of the "bullying" in the school, you have to do something to help him: the first thing, to speak with a teacher or teacher. If he does not remain satisfied with the answer of the persons in charge of the school, do not retire, look for other means and resources available for preparing these infantile - juvenile conducts. It is important that it makes understand the victim who is not guilty of anything, that what happens is an injustice. It might use expressions as:" You are not guilty of being intimidated by other schoolmates" o "you do not have to face to this situation only". Help his son to practise what to say to the intimidador so that it should be prepared for the next time. Do not stimulate his child so that it defends itself fighting. Instead of it, suggest he or she to try to move away to avoid the intimidador, or to look for the help of the teacher, trainer or another adult. Stimulate his child so that it is with his friends when he travels towards the school and of return, during the trips to do buys, or in other exits. The intimidadores tend not to bother to the child that it is in a group.

The first thing that the intimidated one loses his self-esteem is, therefore it is the first thing that it is necessary to reinforce. The help and the comprehension in the hearth, in the family, are fundamental for anyone that he wants to face this phenomenon. Do everything what can for helping to that these children, girls and young people could car - valorarse.