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The normal process of the infatuation is when a person starts by feeling friendliness for another person later to go on to an innocent attraction, it begins to be idealized up to going so far as to turn other into a divine being. Then the individual closes to the love being blocked up. We might say that the love is blind when it incapacitates to do a realistic analysis of the situation, when all the illusions are projected in another person, when we believe that she is the only person who can give us the happiness. If this process is very rapid, he is named an affectionate bowshot, which is a symptom of affective immaturity because the mature evolution is slow and progressive. Be as it will be, this must be a passing process to culminate in a mature love between two independent persons who are respected and support the loyalty. Nevertheless, there exist persons who do not overcome the stage of the blindness, like for example the dependent persons.
To get obsessed with a person or a relation is an addiction symptom. It can happen because the individual feels so needy, so insecure that it sticks to this person as if it was his salvation. It is not the normal desire of union but of a powerful, insatiable famine, which distorts his sense of the reality. This takes him to an obsessive relation of superpossession, where any small discussion is a deep rejection. The addiction to the love is a suffering. Normally they are persons who have developed in his life a deep fear of the abandonment, and that's why at the time of falling in love they are possessive and jealous, with excessive sensibility to the criticism and to the rejection. This explains some cases of maltreatment, where the woman is capable of supporting any humiliation before being left. The persons with low self-esteem are more inclined to the dependency, and to the need of "sticking" someone to feel safe.
FORMS OF ADDICTION TO THE LOVE
- To a person: He can be a lover, a son... This type of addiction bears non-being able to live independently of another person, feel that it is a possession. This type of addiction is sanctified by our culture (how he loves him!), when in fact it is only a camouflaged egoism. If really you look for the good of another person, you allow him to be independent that is the necessary thing psychologically and biologically. The father suffers this type of addiction towards his son bothers for his independence and thinks that he is an ungrateful person.
If this dependency is reciprocal, it is very difficult to evolve in the life, like the son who lives with his mother through the whole life.
- To a relation: There are persons addicted to the idea of having a relation. They are in love more of the idea of having couple than of the person. There exist two types, which break and begin relations again, and those who stick to the effects reforzantes of his relation ("I hate You but I cannot leave you"). Many couples stay joined for many other reasons than for love.
- To the romance: These individuals live touched by the romance, the adventure, the passion. They worry for the romantic rituals: you quote, have for dinner, sex in slightly common places... the whole tantalizing paraphernalia of the passing romance. It is addiction is usually the result of the fantasy, the infantilism, the affective underdevelopment. They look for the seduction, the conquest, but then they get tired. They are immature that social idols are usually considered. A clear example addict's to the romance was Don Juan, and normally who like that he is named coincides with this profile.
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